Love Yourself So You Can Upgrade Yourself


One of the most badass things about being alive is that you have the power to reinvent yourself. You can become whomever you choose to be.  In order to co-create the best possible future for yourself, you must love yourself to upgrade yourself.

I often hear people say that they want to lose weight to look better, or become healthier because of their significant other, or simply become a better person because of someone they love. More often than not, the initial motivating factor, which is the catalyst of the change, fades into the background as struggle takes the forefront. The person working toward self-improvement then succumbs to weariness. The excuses roll in and you end up feeling like you’re back to square one. There are no tricks when it comes to being consistent. The truth is, all you have to do is love yourself into changing for the better.


Becoming a healthier version of yourself isn’t something you can try to achieve, it’s something you simply work toward and gain. If your motivation is superficial, unless you’re motivated by another factor, chances are you will experience plateaus and give into that little voice in your head that tells you It’s too hard.  Your determination may wane after putting in time and not seeing the results you’re desperate for.

On the other hand, if you love your body and want to take care of it and are willing to put in time and effort devote to its improvement, you’re more likely to succeed.


This translates to, “If you’re not willing to put in work, you won’t get anywhere.” Part of loving yourself into changing for the better means you become malleable in such a way that pushing yourself beyond the realm of your comfort allows you to grow and become a stronger version of yourself.

Don’t be afraid of pain. I’ve heard more than one expert say that pain is weakness leaving the body. This applies to the mind and soul as well. Don’t be afraid of leaning so intensely into your edges that you quiver at your very core. The pain, when regarded as a standard, is a good thing for the most part.

Allow yourself the privilege of unboxing yourself. I know that in your head, you view yourself in such a way that you cling to your memory of your old self. That is NOT who you are. You get to dictate who you choose to become.


To put it plainly, the version of yourself that you know is simply a result of your past actions. Your growth depends solely upon how hard you’re willing to work and how deeply committed you are to the change you are willing to bring about. Becoming better is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight.

Evolution is a choice you can freely make and as long as you are willing to draw upon your past versus allowing it to define you, your future is yours for the shaping. When you grow, you inevitably change, so why not change for the better?

I know that some of you who are reading this feel like you’re stuck, or you’re not getting anywhere, but I guarantee you that you aren’t stuck, and you’re definitely going places. You’ve just gotta use the right fuel to keep adding to that fire of yours. Remember, if anybody can do it, you can.

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Sarah is the Senior Editor of a site that empowers women to take chances, build confidence and find love by incorporating flirting into their daily routines. A scifi junky, addicted to tattoos and Joyce Carol Oates, she is currently relocating to Seattle.