“Us” Time


Us time is time set aside for just “US”, that means, no children, no relatives, no friends, no work, just “US”.  Some of you may call this “date night” or know it by some other euphemism. Whatever you call it, I call it “critical time required to nurture your relationship”. For today’s purpose, we will refer to is as “us time”.

Let’s face it, life is busy for all of us and if you are in a relationship, especially a long term relationship, your time can be taken up by many things such as children, work, events, friends, paying the bills, doing yard work, keeping up the house, etc.

With all that goes on in our day it is very easy to neglect the two people that are most important to you, yourself and your significant other, your spouse, your best friend, your lover, your life partner …

By the time we do all that we have to do in a day, we are so tired that when we sit down, or more likely collapse, we soon drift off into the land of sleep to only wake up the next day to do it all over again. It is no wonder that we don’t feel romantic or have time/energy to have an intimate conversation or do other things that we need to do to nurture our relationship.

Many couples will go on like this for long periods of time before they get to a point where they don’t know each other anymore or find themselves seeking what they are missing with someone else.  Only then will some couples wake up and realize that they have neglected each other and guess what, they will then make an effort to start setting aside “Us Time”. Once their relationship is in real trouble they will then attempt to make time to be together and attempt to rebuild their relationship.  The sad part of this, is that so much damage has be done that the one night they may set aside a week is not enough to repair the damage which has been done.

So, what are you waiting for? Make “Us Time” happen now! No excuses! You can find time and energy if you really want to, you can make this happen. Believe me, you will find time if you are forced to, so why wait? Why wait until your relationship is falling apart at the seems from neglect.

Starting today, set aside “Us Time”. Make this a time to be alone, a time to reconnect, a time to be romantic, a time to have intimate conversations, a time to nurture your relationship.  Note, “Us Time” does not need to limited to one night a week, you can have multiple “Us Times”, e.g. 30 minutes each morning before anyone else gets up, lunch a couple times a week, a set night of the week where you go out to dinner.  As a side note, going to the movies, is not great “Us Time” because there is not really anytime to interact with each other, find things to do together that have you interacting, even if that interaction is as simple as gazing deeply into the eyes of the one you love.

Remember, your relationship is one of the most important parts of your life,  give it the time and energy that it deserves!


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Alex Wise served over 5 years as relationship expert helping women from around the world figure out the men in their love lives from an honest, male perspective. Alex is one of the contributors and editors for Loveawake.com dating website. He is passionate about thought leadership writing, and regularly contributes to various career, social media, public relations, branding, and online dating communities.