What wouldn’t most people give to have the perfect relationship?
Is it possible to even have a perfect relationship?
Couples put a lot of pressure on themselves to come up with some sort of huge breakthrough that takes their relationship from 0 to 60 in a matter of days.
In this blog, you’ll learn that small efforts can lead to major relationship changes. You can start by improving each other’s mood and behavior with the 2 tips I’m going to share with you today. Read on…
The Idea of Achieving a Perfect Relationship
Has the spark left your relationship?
Have you and your partner run out of things to say?
Are you and your partner experiencing a particularly low point in your relationship?
Relationships have their ups and downs. What becomes scary is when you feel you’ve become stuck in a downward turn… and can’t seem to escape it.
You may begin to think the relationship is over, that you and your partner had your day in the sun, but that maybe it just isn’t meant to be between you.
Or, you may be at your wit’s end trying to figure out how to make the necessary changes to save your relationship. You may feel you’ve tried everything. Or, you know you could do better, but you’re just not sure what that looks like.
Let’s go back to what I said at the beginning of this article about the idea of the “perfect” relationship. Who doesn’t want a perfect relationship, right? But do you know what a perfect relationship looks like? Would you recognize it if you had it?
Think of your relationship as a journey, not a destination. Even if you reach a “perfect” point, something will come along and shake the balance. You’ll have a bad day. Your partner will say the wrong thing. You won’t be able to come into agreement on a major decision.
So, striving for some idea that things will always be A-1 is too much pressure for any couple.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t make a few small changes to help boost each other’s mood or positively influence each other’s behavior. Here are two small efforts you can make that will reap big dividends in creating positive relationship changes. You may not reach perfect, but life will be a lot more pleasant.
Small Effort #1: Prioritize Each Other
One area where a lot of couples run into trouble is when they allow each other to slip down, down, down the list of priorities.
Everyone has responsibilities that must be handled. But when you’re in a relationship, you also have a responsibility to prioritize each other near the top of things you must take care of. Relationships don’t take care of themselves, and if you’re in a relationship, you need to create the space necessary to let your partner know you see them as a very important part of your life.
Many people will say, “But I’m too busy… I need to take care of this, that, the other…” I’m sure this is all true and you really are overloaded with responsibilities. So while I say take your relationship as a responsibility that needs to be prioritized, I don’t mean you should view it as a chore.
Enjoy your relationship: dress up, go out. Ask your partner questions that show your interest. This will perk up your partner’s mood, as well as your own, and you’ll treat each other like the treasures you are—because you will be actively appreciating what’s good about your relationship.
Small Effort #2: Show the Utmost Respect
It’s easy to get comfortable in our relationship and let it all hang out. But bad manners are always a no-no.
Maybe you’ve heard “that couple”… the couple who talks to each other worse than anyone would talk to a dog. Makes you cringe, doesn’t it?
But listen to how you and your partner talk to each other—even in private. Would you be mortified if others could hear you? Is it respectful? Would you talk to your boss or one of your parents like that?
How you and your partner talk to each other has an effect on each other’s mood and behavior. We tend to mirror the behavior of others, so this is an area that you can see positive changes in your relationship just by making a tweak to how you talk to your partner.
Treat your partner with the utmost respect, and you will soon see an effort on their part to mirror the treatment they’re receiving. If not, you can gently point out, “The way you’re speaking to me… could you find a way to rephrase that in a way that you would maybe say it to your boss?” Sometimes, people aren’t aware how they’re coming across.
By aiming for a respectful tone, it will make life more pleasant for the both of you.
My best to you in making small efforts to achieve big changes.
Where do you prioritize your partner?
Do you feel your partner prioritizes you?
Are you and your partner respectful t0t each other?
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