As much as we all feel that we want a Sweetheart, it is darned scary to actually put yourself out there. So often when I tell people what I do, I get responses that sound like, *Oh, that is so interesting, I’d love to hear more about it. I really would like to find a mate, BUT….* and then come a zillion reasons why they haven’t or won’t.
If you are reading this, you probably are at least THINKING about going looking. But take a half step towards it, and your fears jump forward, ready to trip you and beat you back over the line to safety.
I want to hear more! Send me (diana@loveawake.com) any reason that you can think of why you shouldn’t go about finding yourself a Sweetie.
50 Ways to BLEEP Your Lover!
- I have to lose a few pounds first.
- I just started a new job and am too stressed.
- I just lost my job and am too stressed.
- I have to pay off a few bills first.
- I want to wait ’til my kids are out of the house (they are 6 and 10 now).
- My parents just died and I need to heal for the next 20 years.
- I have no track record with eligible and appropriate men so why ruin a perfect record?
- I might get a nibble with the cyberdating thing and then what excuse would I have!
- Yeah, I may have lost 51 pounds, but I still have 30 to go and I never found the profile that says their ideal date has 5 pounds of extra skin on her belly!
- I might have to go to funeral in two weeks.
- I have to shampoo my hair.
- I have to shampoo my dog.
- I have to shampoo my carpet.
- Since my wife left me, I’m not sure whether I’m most attracted to men, women, or animals…
- I might actually get what I say I want, and then what?
- But then again, I don’t know what I want, so that shouldn’t be a problem.
- I just don’t have time right now to get into a relationship. (But of course I won’t give up my soaps and romance novels.)
- It is not the time to try and blend a family.
- Men can’t be trusted.
- They’re already married.
- If they are nice, they are gay.
- They are still living with Mom.
- I sure would like to have a partner, but I like things just the way they are.
- I’d have to take off my clothes?
- I want to love and be loved, but that means caring and risking getting hurt, and I don’t want to get hurt.
- I’d never be able to make space in my closet.
- I don’t want to give up my freedom, have to account to anyone.
- I wouldn’t want anyone who would want me.
- You mean, go on a date? I haven’t been on a date in 23 years!
- I don’t have time.
- I’d have to clean my house.
- What would I wear?
- And make my dog sleep on the floor?
- I have to walk the cats.
- My library needs reorganizing.
- I have to cross-index my videos and DVDs.
- I have to mow the lawn first.
- My belly button is full of lint!
- Still healing from a previous relationship breakup (never mind that it has been 4 years!!)
- My ex wouldn’t like it.
- He says that this time, he’ll leave his wife as soon as she has the baby.
- My roommate is more attractive than I am.
- I don’t have ESPN.
- My tan has faded.
- I’m waiting for the sale at Victoria’s Secret.
