There is a joy that every person can relate to from their childhood that you experience when you complete a puzzle. In the real game of life and finding happiness your friendships consume a large portion of the puzzle. You think you have found all of the right pieces and then when you go to put it together some have the wrong rounded edges. You try to squeeze or manipulate those pieces into fitting and all they do is rough up the other edges of your puzzle. You have to come to a place where you accept those pieces are not going to fit, throw them out, and keep searching for the right ones.
You cannot live a positive life with negative people and influences in your life, period. Negative people attract negative people.
When the pieces are not fitting and you are feeling sorry for yourself and your situation, the only way you know how to feel better is to engage in conversation about someone else and their puzzle.
We usually leave these conversations feeling better about ourselves because we talked about someone else’s shortcomings and issues instead of talking about what we are struggling with and how we can improve.
If you are looking for happiness through other’s misery you will never find it.
People who gossip about other people need to be removed from your life.
Be the person who speaks the truth. Do not sugar coat because you fear offending someone. When you begin to speak the truth, your voice will earn respect. Your friends should know that when they ask for your opinion they are going to get the real, raw, and honest answer. An answer that comes from a compassionate and loving place. Be the puzzle piece that fits perfectly into your friend’s puzzle.
Seek honest friends, those are the people who will truly have you. An honest friend’s voice is pure, it will not always be what you want to hear, but it will always be spoken with the best of intentions.
If your friends do not motivate and inspire you to reach your full potential, you need new friends. Stop making excuses for them. You are who you surround yourself with. If you want to live a fulfilled life the people around you should be encouragers, motivators, dreamers, and doers. Seek these people in your life and invest in those who invest in you. Do not spend time worrying about people who do not worry about you.
We have been here. We have wasted a lot time gossiping and judging about others, instead of investing time into finding the puzzle pieces that fit right into our puzzle and being the right piece to fit into someone else’s. One of the most valuable lessons we have learned on our journey is that as you remove negativity from your life, you allow more room for growth.
There are so many distractions in this world like gossip, social media, work, addictions, family, and even friends. It is up to you what you allow into your life and what you don’t.
Be the one who finishes the puzzle.