A “relationship bucket list” requires that you focus on your relationship; that you come up with a list of things that you would like to do together. Everyone’s list is different and unique.
“Having a partner to do the bucket list with you is an absolutely amazing way to strengthen a bond, forging what could be a life long friendship. Not only will you share the experience of persevering and meeting your goals, but you’ll gain some great memories in the process. The number one most important thing about having an accomplice join you on your bucket list adventures is that you’ll have something to look forward to together. The reason why having a mutual bucket list, aside from your own personal bucket list is important is quite fundamental. When you share a mutual goal, your daily conversations will be geared toward the future goal, and toward the current steps necessary to accomplish this goal.” ~ Alex Shalman
“Relationship bucket list” VS.”Bucket list”
Whats the differrence?
Unlike the movie, “The Bucket List,” staring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman you will not be making the list because you (or your relationship) is about the kick the bucket. In the movie, two terminally ill cancer patients, they take back control of their lives by creating a list of things they wish to accomplish before they pass. Among their last aspirations are laughing until you cry, visiting Stonehenge, and kissing the most beautiful girl in the World.
Using your creativity to put together a bucket list shows you and your partner that priorities are important to you. Your list is not a “kick-the-bucket list!” Writing a joint bucket list will help you feel more connected to your partner. You will feel the anticipation and excitement build as you build your bucket list together. Get out of your comfort zone. Push your thinking to the limits but place no limitations on your list.
Don’t just put whatever you both want on your list; put it in your life! Be your partner’s support system. Encouragement helps.
Important!
“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” ~ Zig Ziglar
As you cross things off your list, you can look back and say “I lived life, I did things I wanted to do with my partner, we accomplished something together, we enjoyed the ride!”
A relationionship “bucket list” will definitely improve your marriage! Why? It helps you stay focused on each other. Communication will improve and more.
What are the benefits?
What do you and your partner dream about accomplishing together as you live happily ever after? Whether it’s going on an exotic vacation, learning to salsa dance, running a marathon, or going sky diving together, there are a ton of benefits to putting your heads together to create a relationship bucket list:
- Sharing and discussing joint hopes and dreams helps you feel closer and more connected.
- Making plans pits you together as a team and keeps you focused on one another-and your future together-plus puts you in a “we’re-in-this-together-let’s-have-some-fun” frame of mind.
- Setting mutual goals gives you something to look forward to and provides you with an opportunity to hunker down and work together at crossing things off your list.
Creating a relationship bucket list
Creating a relationship bucket list is easy. All you need is a pen, some paper, and some quality time together to brainstorm. Definitely take the time to write down all the things you dream about doing as a couple. Having a list will serve as a reminder of exciting possibilities on your horizon. Research also reveals that the process of writing down what you want in life increase the probability of it happening by 30 percent.
As you make your list, try to keep it practical and realistic for the most part. If you’re struggling financially, a trip to Tahiti is probably not within your means. But don’t be afraid to include a few far-fetched ideas. Just because something feels out of reach right now doesn’t mean it can’t happen down the road.
The Couples’ Bucket List
Most couples won’t end their days quite as memorably as Bonnie and Clyde or as perfectly choreographed as the (spoiler alert!) dual passing in The Notebook. But the good news is you don’t have to wait till the last gasp to do dramatic things together. There are ample opportunities to get out there and live it up with your sweetie each and every day. So don’t just sit there in your Snuggies eating leftovers (there will be plenty of time for that later). Here is a master checklist to ensure that you squeeze all the potential out of your romance while you’re still kickin’!
17 things you must do as a couple.
Here are ways to start designing your realationship bucket list.
1. Couples Massage
A couples massage is one of the hottest treatments at luxury spas all over the world. What could be more romantic than lying side-by-side with your significant other in the most relaxing environment?
2. Write a Love Letter
Let’s bring it back to old school; the days where letters were handwritten, sealed with a kiss and mailed at the post office. Love letters are a physical memory that will last a lifetime.
3. Cook Dinner Together
Food and romance have be linked throughout history, mix in some intriguing conversation and you have the best date night ever. The dishes that you create on this night will become a significant part of celebrating other events in your lifetime.
3. Have a Picnic
Break out the old picnic basket, pack your favorite bottle of wine, pick a secluded outdoor getaway and create a memory.
4. Stay up all Night, Laughing
There are many reasons that we stay up all night, how many of them include just laughing?
5. Sing a Karaoke Duet
12 years ago, my husband and I sang “Summer Nights” from Grease at a local Karaoke club. Though the musicality left much to be desired and they actually turned the volume down on my microphone, it is an experience that we still talk about.
6. Carve your Names into a Tree
I typically would not recommend defacing a living object, but in the name of Bucket Lists I will have to break this rule.
7. Dress up for Halloween
Fairy tales can come true, at least on Halloween. What could bring a couple closer together than looking completely ridiculous as a team?
8. Kiss on Top of the Ferris Wheel
Some of the most romantic movies feature a smooch on the tippy-top of the Ferris Wheel.
9. Watch the sunset & rise in one day
You might be able to complete this one as well as, #3 {Have a Picnic} & #4 {Stay Up All Night, Laughing} all in one day! Now that’s the ultimate in multi-tasking.
10. Climb to the Top of a Mountain
Tackle hiking the highest mountain together. You could possible complete bucket list goal #3 while you are up there!
11. Horesback Ride on the Beach
No doubt you have seen the abundance of advertisements featuring a couples romantic horseback saunter alongside a white sand beach. Why not recreate this ad?
12. Create a Music CD of your Relationship
Compile all the songs that have meaning to your relationship together and put them on a cd.
13. Make Love in an Inappropriate Location
An airplane, park, public restroom that’s up to the two of you.
14. Take a Bubble Bath
Bubble baths aren’t just for the kids, they a relaxing for the adults too and a fabulous way to get closer to your partner.
15. Jump off a cliff into water
Grab your partners hand, plug your nose and take a leap of faith.
16. Learn to Tango
Learn, what is said to be, the most romantic dance.
17. Skinny Dip
Strip off the clothes and take a little swim into freedom.
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