Stand in line at your local grocery store and you are sure to catch “teasers” on front of magazines that suggest an article that will tell you the magic spot to touch that will induce unbridled ecstasy in your partner or the “secret” that he/she won’t tell you out loud yet craves for you to do. The underlying premise is that if you are able to somehow send your partner to new sexual heights that your relationship will be stronger.
At the end of the day while the physical aspect of a relationship is important it is not what makes a relationship work. As a matter of fact I have known of relationships that on the sexual aspect were mind blowing, however once the sex was over and each person rolled out of bed the relationship itself was a nightmare.
Melanie Griffith expressed what I am talking about very well when she expressed the following:
“There is a place you can touch a woman that will drive her crazy. Her heart.”
How very true! By the way this applies to both women and men. It is when we touch the heart of another that we have the true makings of a relationship. People do get confused on what this means. Many may read this and feel they have to make some grandiose gesture to touch the heart of another; they may go out and buy expensive jewelry, flowers or candy to give as a gift in an effort to touch the heart of there desire. They may make elaborate plans to wine and dine another to touch their heart. While these things may be nice they are not normally the things that touch ones heart.
How we touch the heart of another is different in each relationship, however speaking in general terms to touch the heart of another is to be genuine and in our authenticity our love will come forth and be seen in the little things we do. We will touch the heart of another because of how we interact with the world around us, it could be the way we interact with a child, it could be the way we react to a puppy, it could be as simple as how we interact with a waiter or waitress at a restaurant, it could be as simple as the act of picking up a piece of paper we find on the sidewalk and throwing it in the trash, it could be how we speak about and interact with our parents, it could be how we get lost in the beauty of nature. There are a million little ways that we touch the heart of another and very rarely are they the things we would consider as things we would purposely do to touch someone’s heart.
Maybe that is the point; maybe it is when we are simply being our most genuine self that we attract other people into our life that develop into relationships. When we are living authentically and on purpose we do become more attractive to other people and it is then that if we do choose to enter a relationship that we build that relationship on a solid foundation because there are no masks, no false bravado, nothing that will fall away as the relationship becomes more comfortable.
As you become more authentic in your being you also become more authentic in your relationships. It is then that you will come to touch the heart and soul of others in extraordinary ways through very ordinary actions and because you are being genuine, your love, your relationship will not grow tired.
“Do not think that love, in order to genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired”
– Mother Teresa