Relationships are tricky business. They have been since the dawn of time, and they’re likely to remain that way forever, regardless of the technological progress as well as any other advancements that we make as a society. The dynamic between two people, regardless of how much they love each other can and will get complicated sometimes and the best thing to deal with it is to simply be ready for it.
Every person comes into a new relationship with varying degrees of positive and negative experiences with other romantic encounters. Even someone with no previous experiences brings a whole new set of problems and insecurities to the table, perhaps more than someone who’s been in a serious relationship before.
Regardless of what and exactly how much baggage each person has to deal with, one of the key aspects of a successful and happy relationship is trust. In many ways, trust is even more important in keeping couples together than love and affection! After all, even if you love somebody, there is no barrier more powerful than the lack of trust. Keep on reading to learn the most effective ways to build up and maintain trust in a long-term relationship.
Spice it up in the bedroom
This one is not only one of the most successful and proven methods of maintaining trust, but also the most fun one! If you’re unsure about how to take your sex life to the next level, check out this article on BDSM. Having a satisfying and adventurous physical relationship will ensure that you trust each other in more than one way.
First of all, it can lead to decreased jealousy and a more trusting approach towards your relations with other members of the opposite sex. If you’re a sexually active couple who tries new things and isn’t afraid to push each other’s boundaries then that voice in the back of your head telling you that you’re not good or attractive enough for your partner will slowly start to fade away. After all, it has been psychologically proven that frequent orgasms are beneficial not only in the short-term, physical aspect, but can also improve the general quality of your relationship.
Secondly, kinky sexual escapades are very physically demanding and require a high degree of trust simply because you need to be certain that your partner won’t go too far and hurt you during intercourse. Implementing additional elements to your bedroom fun times, such as handcuffs, blindfolds and other toys will not only improve the quality of the sex you’re having, but also help you be more trusting towards your partner, even in the most extreme of circumstances.
Have honest conversations
Communication is key. It’s not just an old cliche that people like to post on their blogs or judge other people’s relationships on. If you are unable to talk to your partner about anything and everything, then that is something that the both of you need to work on together, as soon as possible.
Feeling like you can tell your better half anything that’s on your mind without the fear of being judged or misunderstood directly correlates with the level of trust you have for that other person. The more you confide in them, the more they can understand you as a person and only then can the both of you work towards a trusting, healthy relationship that will last long into the future.
Talking about the most difficult of issues and laying your deepest secrets out in the open takes a lot of guts and courage. Besides exposing all of your flaws and insecurities, you’re also risking being misunderstood or outright judged by your partner.
That is why it’s so important to get those things out of the way early on. If you can’t get past each other’s imperfections and dark secrets, or feel like you can’t ever confide in your partner, it’s best to cut it off early then prolong the suffering and risk wasting many invaluable years with the wrong person.
Recognize your partner’s individuality
One of the most prominent problems in relationships, especially early on in one’s lifetime is the fact that people don’t recognize the individual in their partner. Just think back to your high school years and the relations you’ve had back then. Competing for attention with your partner’s friends, acquaintances and extracurricular activities. Constantly needing to know what they’re doing at any given moment, while having your partner thinking all the same things when you’re preoccupied with your own stuff.
This spiral of jealousy and uncertainty about a relationship’s future can be exhausting and is a frequent reason for the breaking up of these “high school sweetheart” types of relationships. Kids don’t know any better than to assume that if someone chooses to date them, they are pretty much the same person in a different body. Don’t make this childish mistake — recognize your partner’s hobbies, interests and friendships, even if they don’t align with your own.
Realize and embrace the fact that both of you have their own, separate things going on. Don’t try to take over all those parts of your partner’s life as they are a huge part of what made them the person you fell in love with.