Wouldn’t life be great if your man thought just like you do?
If only he could see the world as you see it through your eyes… share your opinions on topics as diverse as who should run for President to the merits of French onion soup…
Life would be so much easier if he thought like you. Only, that would make him… not him. He’d be you, only with male equipment.
Stop right there, right?
In this blog, I’m going to tell you about a trap many women fall into, and they make themselves miserable. But don’t worry, I’m also going to share with you how to escape the trap. Please keep reading…
The Positive Side of Thinking Differently
Sometimes, life would be easier if our partners thought exactly like us. Then, there would be no tension… no friction… no arguments…
And no passion.
Let’s face it: being with someone who agrees with us straight down the line is all well and good, but it doesn’t really spark anything to make us feel challenged and stimulated by the presentation of a different opinion.
If everyone thought the same, then there wouldn’t be a need for sales people, marketers, lobbyists, lawyers… we’d all be living in some sort of Shangri-la.
Look, even an oyster needs a grain of sand to make a pearl. A little friction isn’t the worst thing.
Appreciating Him for the Unique Person He Is
Now, you were attracted to your partner for his unique qualities at one point.
But the trap some women—and even men—can fall into is resenting that their partner doesn’t think like them. They quickly forget they were once drawn to that push-pull of being with someone who has their own ideas and opinions.
Another common trap is that people can begin to think, “If my partner doesn’t think like me, they’re wrong.”
That’s the same as if your partner thought, “Hey, she doesn’t think like me—she’s wrong!”
When we get caught into these traps, we can make ourselves miserable. You can’t enjoy your relationship with your partner if you view them as being wrong, because it makes them into something alien from you. And who wants to cuddle up with an alien?
Let’s look at how to climb back out of these traps and enjoy the unique person that your partner is.
Tip #1: Catalogue Differences and then do This…
The sooner you accept that you and your partner don’t think alike, the happier you’ll be. Really. You can improve satisfaction in your relationship just by accepting that you don’t see eye to eye on everything.
Try cataloguing all of your differences… anything that gets under your skin that you don’t agree on, no matter how major or trivial. Write them down on a sheet of paper.
Once you have a clear understanding on the types of things you don’t agree on, burn the paper. This signifies your acceptance that you can’t change someone else’s mind, and that you appreciate your partner for the unique individual they are.
Tip #2: Change How You View Differences in Opinion
When you don’t agree with someone on something, it’s good policy to be respectful—even when it’s your partner.
But you can also actively make a change, by flipping how you view a difference in opinion. The next time you and your partner disagree, here’s what you tell yourself: “My partner and I don’t agree. It doesn’t mean either of us is wrong, it just means we think differently.”