If only you could read his mind… you could unlock his heart, right?
Well, there is a scientific way to do so.
Maybe you’ve been trying the same tactics over and over and wondering why, this time, they still didn’t work.
Those unsuccessful tactics are unsuccessful for a reason: they aren’t the right ones for unlocking his heart.
No offense, ladies, but you may be overcomplicating this—but only because you don’t know what the key is. It’s something that I want more women to understand so they can empower themselves to unlock their man’s heart.
In this blog, you’ll learn what that key is and how to use it using 2 tips. Please keep reading…
The Mystery of the Sexes
Women and men have long looked at each other and thought, “You are a complete and total mystery to me.”
And ladies, I have to hand it to you: you really are more of a mystery than you realize, and I’ll explain why in a second.
First, let’s take a look at men. We’re going to lift the lid a bit and peer inside to see what’s going on in our brains.
His brain looks and functions differently than yours: men and women think differently—and that’s okay. There’s no one “better” way of thinking, each sex has its strengths. So instead of women and men wringing their hands over it, we need to learn how to work with each other.
Men think analytically, and women think intuitively. Is this 100% in every case? No—think of it as a spectrum.
So if you want to unlock your man’s heart, you need to understand his brain and how that type of thinking plays out. I’ll give you 3 tips on how to do that shortly.
Let’s look at a woman’s brain. She sees connections everywhere, because her brain thinks in terms of relationships. So if her man says or does something, she can easily relate it back something he said or did before.
If you’re a woman, have you ever been accused of bringing up stuff that your guy considers “ancient history?” Ah, that’s because you make connections. And guess what?
His brain doesn’t work like that.
Next, 2 tips for unlocking his heart.
3 Tips to Unlock His Heart… Using the Doorway of his Brain
If you want to successfully unlock his heart, then toss out those old tactics that have gotten you nowhere. Instead, read the following 2 tips, and use this knowledge as the key for getting through to him.
Tip #1: He Thinks in Terms of Boxes
Remember how I said women think in terms of connections? If you could make a graphic representation of that, picture the innards of some electrical device with wires running everywhere: this connects to that, and maybe that… and that…
Men think in terms of boxes. Each event or incident has its own box. This box has nothing to do with that box.
Understanding this critical difference is the first step, which leads us to our next tip…
Tip #2: Use the KISS Method
Ever heard the saying, Keep it Simple, Stupid? Not exactly a flattering thing to say, but it is the KISS method, and the idea is to keep things simplified.
In translation… when you are having a conversation with your guy, especially if it’s something you’re emotionally heated about, be very conscious of sticking with one topic at a time. If you start to say (like we women tend to do), “You left the toilet seat up, and last week your clothes were all over the bedroom floor, not to mention you didn’t unload the dishwasher twice and I had to do it!”
Guess what: you lost him. He has absolutely no idea what the toilet has to do with the dishwasher, except both have water running through them at times.
To you, it’s a pattern of him “not caring,” but if that’s the point you want to get across, stick with the one example. Each incident needs to be treated separately.
How does this knowledge unlock his heart? He is going to understand what you are saying to him without unnecessary confusion. And that will make him feel successful in communicating with you—which will make him willing to communicate more and to open up to you.
Otherwise, he’s going to shut down, because he is confused and it doesn’t feel good to not be able to communicate well with you. He’ll want to protect himself from not feeling good, which means his heart will begin to shut you out.
Keep these two very simple tips in mind—and use them—and you’ll begin to see his heart open up to you.
My best to you in unlocking his heart.
Do you look at your partner as being a mystery to you?
Have you had that conversation of “what does this thing have to do with those other things?”
Though men’s and women’s brains function differently, do you think there can still be unity between the sexes?
Please share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
