Universal Relationship Needs

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You may think that a man’s mind isn’t that complex in comparison with your own, but sometimes they do experience “emotions” too. Maybe not as often as women, and maybe they will never admit it to the extend we do, but the general needs and wants in human beings are the same all around. Unless of course you are dating a total neanderthal douche bag loser.  The ways we go about expressing how we feel and what we want is what makes us totally different creatures!

So here, very plain and simple are a few things we all want from a relationship, guys are just usually too stubborn to admit that although we are different in many ways, the underlying needs and hopes when in a loving relationship are not different between the sexes.

1

Trust

If you can’t trust each other, the relationship is doomed. Take each others word for it and don’t constantly check up on one another or try to trick them. Trust is respect, and both parties in a relationship deserve to be respected.

Mutual trust is founded in respect and loyalty toward each other. Try to understand and respect your differences while sharing and clarifying your different perspectives.  In some cases, it is better to simply agree to have differences of opinion or your own ways of doing things. You should be able to trust each other in everything, keeping private your partner’s innermost secrets, fears, and struggles. When you say you’ll do something it should be done, always try to keep your word and follow through to the fullest.

2Honest reactions

Don’t fake it, feel how you feel and be real about it. If you are close to someone, you can always tell when they are not being truthful about their feelings. So why lie about it?

Most of us were taught to avoid pain at all costs, so it is a challenge to stand in our truth, knowing that it may seem to hurt a friend or lover or a member of our family. But when we don’t tell the truth, it drives an invisible wedge between us and our lovers. If the goal is to stay within the awareness of love, the truth must be practiced continuously.

3Compliments

Men want to be complimented just as much as women do.

When we look good, tell us. But do not spend hours pouring compliments onto either your man or women. They should know you find them attractive or you probably would not have chosen them.

Telling someone you admire them, think they are a great father, beautiful person etc. goes much further than hearing “you look hot babe” a million times. But of course, you do need to tell your partner they look good once in a while. It is important even if we know you think so, to hear it. Just no need to blow anyone’s head up constantly.

It’s important to understand that you want to compliment your mate, not flatter them, and there is a small but important difference.  Compliments are honest and sincere statements but flattery is often dishonest or a bit too sugary.

4Laughter

Make us laugh!

A sense of humor is a wonderful thing, and a partner with a good one is extremely appealing. Playful communication is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships exciting, fresh, and vital. Laughter and play enrich your interactions and give your relationships that extra zing that keeps them interesting, light, and enjoyable. This shared pleasure creates a sense of intimacy and connection.

People are attracted to happy, funny individuals. Laughter draws others to you and keeps them by your side. When you laugh with one another, a positive bond is created. This bond acts as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements, and disappointment.

5Acceptance

We want you to accept us as we are, not think of us as someone you can renovate.

Yes, we all have faults, but look past them. We want you to accept us for the men and women we already are and are working to become.

Individuals are very different and even though they say that you’ll find someone just like you, you won’t most likely. Everyone has that one thing about them that you just won’t love. In a relationship, you must accept them, flaws and all. And it’s the same as well for them. They must accept you flaws and all.

No one will ever be perfect!

6Honesty

There’s no real basis for a relationship without honesty.

It starts when we first meet and if you’re truly interested, don’t start out playing hard-to-get or lying about who you really are.

In a relationship, the key is communication. You need to tell your partner what you are thinking. I believe that actions can speak louder then words. However, if actions are coupled with words, they are all the more effective. Tell your partner how you feel about them. Tell them how you feel about everything, and your relationship will grow and prosper. Keep things from them and it will wither and die. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to love and lasting relationships.

7Space

Don’t crowd us.

Men and Women like time and space with their friends, and even time alone. Partners who require us to spend every minute with them need to get a life of their own.

We weren’t meant to be joined at the hip no matter how much we think we love someone.  We all need freedom and the right to be an individual. Everyone needs to sort things out by themselves once in a while.  We need the space to dream, create, and explore life on our own.  We aren’t meant to constantly be judging and filtering the universe through one other person’s  eyes and mind.

8Communication

You may not always agree, but go ahead and express yourself…. It makes him proud that you can stand up for yourself because strong women are sexy! And it makes her feel like she is with a real man that wont allow anyone to walk all over him. A total wimpy pushover is not an attractive trait in a man. Note: there is a fine line between asshole and confident! This is usually where the disconnect comes into play.

What is a relationship without communication? It’s like a house without foundation. Communication is the foundation, the building block upon which we can build a successful and loving relationship. Without it there is no relation and without relation there is no relationship.

In order to communicate properly, you have to learn how to listen and talk without arguing. Arguing is not really communicating. Most often, when relationships go bad, arguing becomes a natural form of exchanging information. This gets you nowhere.

9Belief

If you love them, believe in their dreams as much as they believes in yours.

In all of your relationships you have the ability to see the best in people, and to believe the best in those people. Everyone needs a supporting cast of love around them, we all desire to have someone who encourages us, and someone who believes in us.

Be there through the good, happy, sad, and bad times—no matter what. Be willing to provide hugs, kisses, and emotional comfort in all circumstances.  You should always feel like you can count on each other; be reliable and loyal, and be emotionally available when you need each other most.

Realize that fulfilling simple, basic commitments and expectations every day lays the foundation of trust that extends to more challenging situations.

Love is like an iceberg in that
Most is not observed.
The deep part grinds against far shores
No port has ever served.

My feelings for you are beyond
All words, all thoughts, all knowing.
My love lies deep beneath my sea,
With need and passion showing.

But the bulk of it moves silently,
Counting days in years.
I think of you and suddenly
My heart is wrenched with tears.

I feel within me something huge,
Unseen but lovely, move;
I know I’m just a breath across
This dark and awesome love.

Make it a point to keep a positive, upbeat, and healthy mindset regarding your relationship everyday. Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s! Not your parents or other family members, friends, coworkers, that couple whose relationship seems perfect, etc. Every couple makes their own love rules, love agreements, love habits, love routines, and so on. Just focus on you two and making your relationship the best that it can be for you two…

Most importantly, people will always have their opinions, but no one really knows how you two are together, only the people in it know how much they care and where the relationship is headed. Don’t allow negative words uttered by those who have no idea, poison something you know is there. As long as you are not lying to yourself about what is actually there that is!

Be nice to each other and show the love you feel or what is the point?!