When it comes to beautiful, intelligent women – one of the easiest ways to shoot yourself in the foot is to try to impress her with smooth lines, fancy cars or other techniques to try to convince her to like you.
So what should you do instead?
First of all, we’re assuming that you want to make dating beautiful women as simple and stress-free as possible. That’s what this advice is designed to help you do.
Learn to resist the urge to impress the top-class girls and you will be well on your way to meeting, dating and relating with extremely high quality women without ever having to convince them to like you.
A Case Study on Smart Beautiful Women
Bill meets a girl. She’s great. Gorgeous. Incredible job. Smart. Exciting. She’s even funny! And to top it all off, she seems into him!
‘She’s amazing!’ He thinks.
Just like the last case study, Bill puts on his best performance. He really wants to impress her. He tells her all about his great lifestyle and all the cool stuff going for him. He doesn’t meet many girls like this so he really wants to make her feel a connection. He even starts making plans with her to go on future dates and telling her how unique, cool and different she is from all the other girls out there.
He pulls out every trick in the book to try to convince her that he is the right man for her. This woman is exactly the reason why he wanted to get better at persuasion and “getting the girl.”
Success! They go on a couple dates and he spares no expense. “I better do things right” he thinks. Things are going smoothly. They seem to have such a great connection after he’s shared so much of his past with her. He even sends her frequent messages to let her know about the cool things going on in his life and to let her know that he likes her for more than just her body.
And then … she’s gone. She stops returning his phone calls and messages with anything more than “I’m busy.” Meanwhile, Bill is frantically planning out how he can “get her” to like him again. But all his pushing and persistence leads to nothing because she is already gone and he’s left
scratching his head.
The next time he goes out to meet more women he tries even harder to persuade girls to like him, under the false assumption that “if it didn’t work with her then I need to improve my persuasion skills.”
In the end, Bill goes right back into the cycle of persuading every girl he meets to like him.
Have you ever done this?
Symptom: You feel disappointed and let-down when girls you really like leave you or stop returning your phone calls.
Cause: Feeling like you need to convince and persuade girls if you want them to stay with you for the long-run.
“Boo Hoo! If only I could have done a better job making her like me I could have kept her!”
Analysis: The thing about persuasion is that even if a guy can convince a girl to do something she didn’t originally want, the minute he stops persuading her, she leaves.
An interaction that starts with persuasion can only keep moving forward with persuasion. This puts many guys in the (usually unnoticed) cycle of trying to persuade and convince her as long as he wants her in his life or else he risks losing her when he turns off the persuading tactics.
Persuading a girl to stay with him is almost impossible for a man to do for an extended period of time. The constant internal stress of feeling the need to persuade and convince girls to like him ends up interfering with his overall happiness and ability to meet really great women. The worst part is, for the really great women like the one above, persuasion simply doesn’t cut it. She can have any man she wants. Why would she stay with a guy who has to convince her to stay when she could just as easily get one she already knows is the kind of man she wants?
The Underlying Problem Behind Feeling the Need to Impress Smart Beautiful Women (and a Solution!)
Lack of a way to meet women that can actually lead to a relationship where you are both mutually and extraordinarily happy rather than one where you are in a constant struggle to persuade her to stay with you.
What is the solution? Learn to be the kind of man that great women want to be with so that you don’t have to worry about how to persuade her to stay with you.