For guys who want really high-value women, they’re going to have to think a little bit bigger than heading to the bar this Friday and trying to ‘pick up’ whoever’s there. In this article, we outline some ideas behind The Long Game – big-time thinking / long-term thinking dating strategies for men.
When we think about dating, we think big time and we think long-term.
Big-time means – Learning how to find, meet, attract and keep high value woman of exceptional beauty and accomplishment. We do this by meeting tens of thousands of women, going on hundreds of dates, and developing the dating and relating skills we need.
Big-time means – Aiming for more than just any old regular hot girl… Plenty of hot girls are walking around downtown everyday, and lots of them are willing to stop and talk with you if you simply go up to them and say, “Hi, what’s your name?”
Big-time means – Finding ones that have something Amazing going on with her life in addition to her looks – ones like microbiologists, PhD graduates, successful CEOs, astrophysicists or heart-surgeons – and then living out the romance of a life time with her.
We don’t want to settle for just any old girl in just any old relationship. We want them to find an Amazing woman who, in addition to her good looks, also brings along synergy, a great attitude, valuable skills and contagious energy towards building an Amazing life with us. In short, we want a woman who’s part of the team, not part of the cargo.
Long-term means – Looking at women and dating as a continually on-going project over the course of your life. Whether that’s finding “The One” or having fun with a variety of women over your lifetime is up to you. And while it’s entirely possible you’ll meet the love of your life tomorrow at the convenience store, there’s still the large task keeping her AND you happy, excited and in a fantastic relationship for the next 50+ years… If she really is “The One.”
Long-term means – Learning strategies that help you far surpass any and all your goals with women and dating over the next several decades. Not just spitting game at some girl at a club who sees you as nothing more than a walking source of free attention, validation, dates, meal tickets, or VIP status. But actually developing the skills necessary to meet and keep truly high value women.
Long-term means – Finding those actions, beliefs and strategies that help you be happy now AND help you set the stage for even more happiness later on down the road. Not just learning throw-away smoke & mirrors trickery that counts for absolutely nothing when you decide you want to meet and keep truly high value women (beautiful, accomplished, honest, healthy self-esteem, loyal, giving).
It may seem surreal to think about meeting women on the scale of thousands and above. And it may seem incredible to be looking years, decades even, ahead in your dating life. But the fact of the matter is to make massive improvements on yourself in order to meet an Amazing woman of exceptional beauty and accomplishment (or to put up massive numbers in the triple and quadruple digits if that’s your cup of tea), it’s gonna take a bit longer than by the end of next Sunday.
Look at the Big Picture
So let’s start looking at the BIG picture, the LONG-TERM picture when it comes to dating: you need to invest in yourself. The quicker you make a decision to begin consciously learning, the quicker you’ll see more and more results.
Start looking at every date you go on as training. It’s practice. Every time you sit down with a lovely lady in a cafe for a date, you’ve entered the Loveawake Dojo. You’ll learn skills, mindsets, rules, exceptions, variables. You’ll learn about controlling your body, your emotions, your language, your thoughts. You’ll learn perception, acceptance, humor, assertiveness, clarity, negotiation, self-motivation, self-esteem, and gratitude – the things that REALLY matter when it comes to dating high value women…
All of our activities are intertwined and related in a big holistic system that is our lifestyle. As your skills grow here, they’ll grow elsewhere too.