“There’s someone amazing out there for everyone.”
I say this all the time but nobody believes me. I understand: most guys can’t even meet a nice girl, let alone an amazing one.
But in a world of 7 billion people, the odds are on your side. The world is full of amazing women: if you’re not meeting any, it’s simply because you haven’t been looking properly.
That’s about to change. This post will show you how easy it is to find someone special – or improve the quality of the women you date.
Read up, go out and find an amazing girl.
Set Your Own Rules; Be a Chooser
“If there was anything I’d learned, it’s that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him.” – Neil Strauss
Hate it or love it, us men are shallow by nature. We’re suckers for cute girls and make stupid, stupid decisions when one of them’s at stake.
That’s why the average guy does one of two things:
1. Settles for the first cute girl he finds in his immediate social circle.
2. Seeks out the prettiest woman that’ll date him and holds on for dear life.
This works in the short run but usually backfires like a motherfucker.
Let’s say a hot girl really likes a guy. She may be wrong for him in every possible way – personality, goals, values – but he’ll do his best to keep her around.
I’ve seen men swallow pride, shame and personal convictions to get – and keep – the wrong women. It seems crazy but it happens all the time! You’ve been there; I’ve been there; hell, every guy I know has been there. We’ve all been addicted to women who were bad for us.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Want to find someone amazing? Man up and stop wasting the best years of your life on the wrong girls. Stick to the ones who wil really make your heart sing!
To do that – to become a chooser – decide what you do and don’t like in women; make a few rules and enforce them!
Personally, I keep a little list of all the things I find unacceptable and avoid women who do them. Here are some items from that list:
- Rudeness to strangers and staff (waiters, shopkeepers, etc).
- Hostile attitudes towards my close friends and family.
- Toxic behavior – i.e. regular attempts to make me feel bad, undermine my self-esteem, etc.
- Heavy, regular drinking.
- Dishonest and/or manipulative behavior.
My “minimum requirements” are pretty lax but they still filter out many of the women I meet. And since I don’t waste time with the wrong girls, I have plenty left for finding the amazing ones: it’s brilliant!
I encourage you to do the same. Write a manifesto – or list – that clearly states what you want (and don’t want) from the amazing girl(s) you’re about to meet. Review and revise the manifesto often.
Make some rules and see how much the quality of the women in your life improves.
Dating is A Numbers Game – Go Out and Meet New People
The advice in this post will help you meet someone amazing.
It will not, however, make every woman you meet amazing or go out and socialize for you! Meeting women is still a numbers game – I’m just helping you beat the odds.
So do everything you can to socialize as much as possible. Go to parties; ask your friends if they can hook you up with some dates; use matchmaking websites. The harder you look, the shorter your search.
This doesn’t mean you have to scour your local nightclubs hitting on every girl you see. Just start going out and talking to people; be cool. It’s a numbers game; make your “talent pool” as large as possible.
Like Attracts Like: What it Means for You
Here’s a little secret that makes the search a lot easier. Real life isn’t like physics: like attracts like. It’s hard to attract a beautiful, well-dressed girl when you wear novelty t-shirts and hiking boots.
So if you like women who dress classy – buy some nice clothes. Be an interesting conversationalist if you want a smart chick; get in shape if you want a girl who takes care of her body. And if you want all those things, bring as much as you can to the table.
Remember: women need us just as much as we need them. Be the kind of man your dream girls find attractive and they’ll be begging to spend time with you.
I thought this post would be longer, but finding an amazing girl isn’t that complicated. Here’s a step-by-step reminder of what you should do:
- Define what you want – write a manifesto.
- Be someone awesome girls find attractive.
- Go out and meet lots of women
- Filter out the ones you don’t like; leave the amazing ones.
It doesn’t get much easier than that.
I do have something to stress, though: write that manifesto. Too many guys are used to taking whatever they can get. Knowing what you want is the best way to stop wasting time with the wrong women and move on to the amazing ones.