Read this quote and take it on board. It might be one of the most important things you read this year:
I believe that being successful means having a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles.
-Zig Ziglar
What does this mean?
It seems nowadays that guys seem to think that getting the girl they want will make all the difference in the world and will be the end of all their troubles. I wrote about finding true love on Tuesday and how it can make a real difference, but it isn’t the answer to all your prayers
Although it will certainly help, it really isn’t the case.
Imagine for a second: You hate your job; you hate your home life; and your dating life is in despair. If you, like most guys, think that being good with women will make you feel much better about your whole life then think again.
Like I said earlier, you might find it helps you feel better about yourself and your current situations. Being good with women is awesome. But it isn’t going to solve all your problems. Unless of course your only problem is with women and then yes it will. But if that’s the case then why are you reading this article hey? ;-).
However, by not addressing the other issues, there is always the chance that things may go tits-up. For example: Imagine you’re good with women. You meet a girl and you get on well. You start dating and then out of the blue she splits up with you. The reason doesn’t really matter; these things happen. Suddenly you are back to square one and will probably find it worse because not only are you back to square one but you also have the heartache of the breakup to content with. Not good.
I don’t mean to be negative. You must realise that having success in life is all about being successful all-round. As Zig says above, being a success at work is no good if your home life sucks or your social life sucks. The same can be said with women. It’s all about having success in the rest of your life. Being successful with women is not going to sort all your problems. Instead you gotta get your life as a whole sorted.
Why does it make that much of a difference?
If you are happy with your living arrangements, your job and your social life, then success with women will come so much easier. Building a successful and happy life is the foundation to all success.
You will feel better in yourself and this will come across to women. You will be more confident, happy, fun, etc because life is how you choose it to be. Not how you let other factors dictate to you.
Does this mean I can’t be success with women if I am not happy at the moment?
If you are in a situation where you are unhappy with your current lifestyle then this doesn’t mean you can’t be successful. That’s the exact position I was in when I met my current girlfriend. However, at the time, I was trying everything I could to improve my current situation.
So, instead of just moaning about my current lifestyle, I was instead think of and doing things that would improve it. This is very attractive to a girl as well as being happy and content because at least you are showing that if you are not happy with something then you will do your upmost to sort it out.
Now that I am in a better position than I was, not only am I happier but I also feel like my relationships are better. My happiness, and the fact I am more content with my life rubs off on my girlfriend. Me being happy makes her feel happier.
