How a Fortune Cookie Changed My Life


Strewn about the coffee table are the remnants of Chinese food. I lean back on the couch with my stomach ready to burst.

“Ah, General Gao, you were a bloodthirsty foe, but your chicken is delectable!”

There is only one more thing needed to win this battle. I deploy a flanking maneuver and grab the golden crusted cookie. With zero resistance I am able to subdue the cookie and steal its secret message. It contains one of the most profound fortunes I’ve ever read.

“You cannot be anything if you want to be everything.”

I hold the message closer and read it several more times, trying to absorb the meaning. My thoughts begin to swirl into a storm of emotion and introspection. What does it all mean?

It’s about passion.

There has been a shift in the seduction community lately. Many well known pick-up artists are not only moving away from routine based game towards more natural game, but are now moving towards what I call “lifestyle game.” They are starting to adapt the thinking that what is really seductive about a man is the way he leads his life. It is essentially his lifestyle that attracts women and not all the different tactics and techniques that pick-up artists are known for.

So how do you lead a seductive lifestyle? Easy. You have to be passionate about something. You need to have a driving force in your life. A purpose for living.

A few movie quotes come to mind in this regard. One is from one of my favorite movies, Adaptation.

“There are too many ideas and too many people. And too many directions to go. I was starting to believe that the reason it matters to care passionately about something, is that it whittles the world down to a more manageable size.” – Susan Orlean

This is almost the same thing that the cookie told me! If you don’t have a focus, a passion, then you end up all over the place, never really accomplishing anything in life.

Remember the movie City Slickers? There is one scene where Curly tells Mitch that he knows the secret of life.


Curly: Do you know what the secret of life is?
[holds up one finger]
Curly: This.
Mitch: Your finger?
Curly: One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest don’t mean shit.
Mitch: But, what is the “one thing?”
Curly: [smiles] That’s what *you* have to find out.

In the end of the movie we find out that the one thing, the secret of life, is different for everyone. That one thing is whatever you care most about in your life.

As for myself, there are so many things in my life that I enjoy doing and so many things that I want to accomplish. Surprisingly, this is a problem. There are too many directions I want to go and too many things I want to do that it is making it difficult for me to get anywhere at all. There is no focus. There is no real passion.

So what is my one thing? What is my passion? I have no idea. I know what I enjoy and I know what my interests are but I’m not too sure which of these I am truly passionate about. Even worse, what if my passion is something that I don’t even know about yet? Maybe my passion is to be a circus juggler or a rodeo cowboy, who knows, it could be anything!

Figuring out your passion in life is not something to take lightly. It’s not something you can just pick out of a hat or decide on a whim. This is going to have to take some serious thought and effort. If I figure it out I’ll let you know.