It’s a classic tale: You’ve been together for awhile, tried to test the waters on his feelings about marriage and are left wondering if he’ll ever pop the question. Chances are if you are asking yourself this, you already know the answer. It may be time to move on, but before you pack your bags, call it quits and create an online dating profile, check out these telltale signs he’s not ready for marriage.
1. You Haven’t Met His Family
I know what you are thinking: His family lives far away or they don’t have a close relationship — so you simply haven’t had an opportunity to meet them. If a guy wants to propose you, he’ll find a way for you to meet his family. Whether his family is 5,000 miles away or one mile away, when he finds the woman he is ready to settle down with, she will meet his family.
2. He Still Has Guys Night Out
When men are ready to settle down, they begin to feel out of place and bored with the singles scene. We don’t begrudge any man a guys night out; women need them too. But if he is still going out to the bars and clubs with his single guy friends every Friday night, being a couple is not a priority for him.
3. He is Financially Unstable
Men still need to feel like they are the provider in a relationship, so if your man still struggles to pay his bills and is living paycheck to paycheck, it is very unlikely that he is ready to take on a wife and ultimately family. Even if you are financially fit — which I am sure you are — it is part of the male wiring. And honestly, do you really want a guy that can’t pay his bills or doesn’t know how he is going to pay his rent? Love can only take you so far; then reality of life sets in, making this an impossible situation.
4. He Makes “Single” Purchases
If your man just bought a shiny new sports car or put a down-payment down on his bachelor pad, he’s definitely not thinking about marriage. Even if he solicits your input on the car or home of his dreams — it is his, not ours. A guy who is ready to settle down is thinking ahead and wouldn’t make such a large purchase if there were a wein the equation.
5. He Says So
This seems so obvious, but is often overlooked. You ask, and if he dodges the topic or tells you he’s not the marrying kind, it is definitely time to move on. He won’t change his mind — but he will keep you in the picture as long as possible. If he says you are the one for him but he’s not ready to get married yet, proceed with caution; that could be OK as long as he’s not showing any of the other signs.
The bottom line is, sometimes it does take men a bit longer to realize they are ready to marry; but eventually, most do want to settle down when they find the right person. If you’ve been dating for awhile and he displays any of these behaviors, he is not the one for you and likely never will be. If you like things the way they are, keep it going. If you are ready to settle down, then stop wasting your time: You can only find the man you are truly meant to be with if you are available for him to find you.
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