Just about every guy wants to be good with women. We all want to feel their soft touch on our body. However to be good with women you don’t have to be perfect. In fact you can be far from perfect and still be very successful.
Here is a quote from Wikipedia:
“Perfectionism, in psychology, is a belief that perfection can and should be attained. In its pathological form, perfectionism is a belief that work or output that is anything less than perfect is unacceptable. At such levels, this is considered an unhealthy belief, and psychologists typically refer to such individuals as maladaptive perfectionists.”
As you can tell from reading this, trying to be perfect is most likely going to be detrimental to the way you live your life.
Getting it perfect
I am a bit of a perfectionist myself. I like to try and do things as well as I can do. Therefore I know first hand how it can hamper you.
Most guys I teach, want to know how to do everything spot on. Know exactly what to do and what to say. The vast majority of guys get so focused on learning everything to try and make sure that everything goes perfectly that they don’t want to approach.
If you don’t approach then you are going to struggle to be good with women.
Life isn’t perfect
You must realise that life isn’t perfect. You are not perfect. Guys who sleep with hundreds of women are not perfect.
Trying to be perfect is like trying to chase the gold at the bottom of the rainbow. It’s impossible. We are only human and thus we will make many mistakes in our life time. This includes many mistakes with women.
However that doesn’t mean that you can’t be successful. The amount of interactions where I feel like I have screwed up only for me to either get a number, get a kiss or get laid is plentiful.
Just because you make mistakes doesn’t mean that you are going to fail.
Let’s give an example
Look at something like golf. In a round a professional might make a number of mistakes. They might hit some crooked drives or miss a few putts. However due to all the good golf they play, they could still win the tournament.
Same with girls. You might make a few little mistakes, but all the good stuff you do during the interaction might still mean you get the success you are striving for.
Trying to be perfect is a mug’s game. Though it’s ok to strive to be the best you can be, understand that being perfect is out of reach.
Plus the fact that you don’t need to be perfect is the real thing to take on board. Look at any successful person and you will see that they have flaws, make mistakes etc. No one, not even the most successful people in the world are perfect.
Also you might want to check out: How To Deal With A Narcissist. Narcissism can be considered as a self-perceived from of perfectionism.